Relationships are like a dance – it’s always fascinating to take a look at the posturing that we all do, the dancing around subjects, and the way we engage in patterns that can be both enriching and destructive. My guest in this episode, Dr. Harriet Lerner is one of our most respected voices in communication, particularly the “how-tos” of navigating the swamps and quicksands of difficult relationships. She is the author of 12 books, including The New York Times bestsellers, The Dance of Anger and The Dance of Fear. It is my pleasure to take a deep dive here with Dr. Lerner, talking about developing self-awareness and listening and talking skills, which are so important to cultivate in any relationship. As you’ll hear, Harriet points out that although change is difficult, a small change on the part of one partner to listen to what you don’t want to hear with an open heart and acknowledge the experience and the desire of your partner can make all the difference. So, please give this interview your undivided attention, because it will profoundly impact the lives of the people you love the most.
Before you step onto a stage to speak, you need to have clarity on two big questions: who your target audience is and what specific problem you solve for them. Once you answer these questions, it’s surprisingly easy to put together a great talk (or webinar, podcast, and so on). It’s when you’re vague and loose with these answers that your talk might meander and not reach anyone. Pat Quinn didn’t get his start as a professional speaker. Instead, he worked as a professional magician for 10 years before deciding to get a “real” job. He became a public school teacher and taught high school for 12 years, during which time he got a degree in brain research and focused on how adults learn. This combination of experiences means he brings both stagecraft and a deep understanding of audiences to his presentations. Tune in to hear his wisdom and learn how to apply it to your own talks and presentations!
Some people talk about changing their lives, but they lack the tools to get them unstuck. Then there are people who manage to change their sleep habits, diet, and move to a different country for an optimized lifestyle. My guest for this episode, David Henzel, is that guy. He is an inspiring serial entrepreneur. He has started, as well as invested in, a number of successful companies, including MaxCDN, TaskDrive, LTVplus, and UpCoach. His true passion is to help people, teams, and businesses succeed, which is why he created Managing Happiness. Managing Happiness is a coaching program, but with a twist—it’s a group coaching mastermind that fosters connections and, most importantly, accountability. It helps you zero in on your true passion, core values, your North Star, and be on your “A-game.” There were so many things that David said that really resonated with me. So much of what we discuss in this episode can really enrich your life across the board, especially if you’re feeling stuck and you want to connect with your passion and move forward with your work and your life. So, without any further ado, on with the show!
There’s a funny scene in Jerry Maguire where Jerry is having a confrontation with his very high-strung, intense fiancée Avery. She says, What was our deal when we first got together? Brutal truth, remember? To which Jerry responds… I think you added the ‘brutal’. In everybody’s life there are the tough conversations that can cause an anticipatory sort of fear and even dread. Whether it’s with a neighbor, spouse, child, partner, boss… the list goes on. My guest today, David Wood, has built one of the world’s largest coaching businesses, coaching high-performing executives, entrepreneurs, teams, and even prison inmates, to create amazing results and deep connection… one tough conversation at a time. He acknowledges that confrontations aren’t easy, but they can bring true transformation, breakthroughs in relationships, not to mention tangible results like asking for a raise and finding out your boss is happy to pay you more money. Or, he or she isn’t, and you leave and end up doing work you like more and getting more money to do it. I can’t imagine there’s anyone out there who isn’t curious to know more about these really powerful methods of communication and so, without any further ado, let’s get on with the show!
This interview, which was originally featured on my Marketing Speak podcast is so incredibly relevant in these turbulent times of 2020. My wise and wonderful guest, Seth Godin, has been such an influential force in my business, and in so many others. Seth knows a thing or two about weathering the ups and downs of making a business succeed—he is an expert in prioritizing long-term survival over short-term profitability. He also knows a thing or two about unleashing viruses—no, not the awful kind that causes global shutdowns, I’m talking about unleashing idea viruses! He’s written books on these exact topics, in fact, and many others. I often remember Seth saying, “when in doubt, get back to the reason why you started a business in the first place.” Which feels like great advice for this moment in time. Stay tuned as I go deep and philosophical about marketing, compassion, and resilience with the man with the iconic yellow glasses.